With the Married Life Newsletter, each month you receive ideas and insights with go-and-do's you can actually go and do. So pick one, two, three of the things below and see how little things can turn into something big! You got this...because you are better at marriage than you think!
by Les and Leslie Parrott
All the important communication tools can be reduced to six basic skills. If you learn them and use them, you will be able to give more love to your spouse, and your marriage will become super-charged with positive energy.
- Make “I” statements, not “you” statements.
- Practice reflective listening.
- Understand and accept the differences between men and women.
- Apologize when necessary.
- Power down and get offline.
- Communicate through touch.
Let's unpack the two of them...
HE SAID/SHE SAID
The Squires have been married for 25 years and have two grown children and two teenagers. James’ job involves a lot of travel during the week, and Nancy also has to travel with her job occasionally. We asked James and Nancy: “How do you stay connected when either of you is on the road?”
James: After twenty plus years of travel on my part, this is still a struggle from time to time. I make lots of phone calls—early in the morning and then again in the evening. We also try to keep our conversation topics on something other than home management and scheduling.
Nancy: We have to be realistic (flexible) with our expectations because traveling for work can throw curve balls into your schedule. Prioritizing time for connecting becomes very intentional—it's not an option, it's a must. We have learned (well, still learning) it is important for us to connect emotionally by asking each other, "How's your heart today?"
Talk About It - How do you stay connected when you are a part?
Grab a sticky note, fill in the blank below, and put it in a place your spouse will find it (e.g., washing machine, steering wheel, bathroom mirror, etc.). Take a picture of the note and upload it to the social media outlet of your choice, and include #MarriedLifeSoutheast.
You make me want to be a better __________ .
Each month we want to share a good post with simple things that can dramatically impact marriages. Check out this post...
Each month, we will bring you one tip that will hopefully bring you closer in the bedroom...or keep you from drifting a part. This month, we want you to hear from Shaunti Feldhahn.
During one meal this week, ask each other this question:
If you could open your own restaurant or store, what would it be like?
CHECK IT OUT
The best gift you can give your spouse is a healthy you—healthy spiritually, physically, mentally and emotionally. Consider exploring a new resource to invest in a better you.
Good Website - Crosswalk.com on Marriage provides great articles to enrich and challenge your marriage.
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