We should ask, “What is the wise thing to do every day”. The reason is that we might go down a path that is unwise. We have to admit “I don’t know”
In James 1:5 and in Solomon’s life, we see that God wants to generously give us wisdom.
We need wisdom to be able to avoid costly mistakes in our relationships and in eternal life decisions.
Steve suggested that “when we yield, wisdom is revealed”. We have a part in yielding. He gave three things to help us yield. 1) Listen to God’s nudges, 2) Create space, 3) Seek peace
This week Phil reminded us from Solomon’s life that we can really get off track.
Proverbs 14:12 “There is a way that seems right to man but the end is death”.
We don’t realize that when we head a certain direction it can have a disastrous ending.
We don’t plan on messing up our lives, families, etc.
We are pretty sure we are doing what we should.
We get caught off guard when we aren’t as smart as we thought and “all of a sudden” things really go the wrong.
We can learn and benefit from other people.
Of all people, Solomon should have had a good ending to his story. 1 Kings 4:20, 25a, 34 tell us about Solomon’s kingdom. With all that wisdom, understanding, peace, security, resources how could things go wrong?
Ecclesiastes shows us a lot about Solomon’s path and struggles.
What Is The Wise Thing To Do?
· Surround Yourself With People Who Will Tell You The Truth About You.
· Ruthlessly Eliminate Pride
Talk about it
What do we know about Solomon’s life? What went well? What went bad?
· How long did it take Solomon to build the temple? (1 Kings 6:38)
· His own palace? (1 Kings 7:1)
· How did Solomon feel about his building a place for God?
· Who did Solomon marry? (1Kings 11:1-2 )
· What alters did he build? (1 Kings 11: 4 -8)
What were God’s promises and conditions to Solomon? 1 Kings 9: 3b -9 If….. then…. This is the story of life.
What could have helped Solomon from losing his way and getting so lost?
When Phil said “The easiest person to deceive is ourselves”, How is that true? How good are we at justifying and defending ourselves?
Prov 14:12 “There is a way that appears to be right but in the end it leads to death”
What happens in that shift from walking wisely to being messed up?
What are some things we can do to help us from going down that path of “How did this happen? How did I get here?”
Phil said that in the Nazi regime, as in other power structures, people quit letting others speak what is true and instead surround themselves with people that will always agree with them.
How is that a sure path to trouble?
Why is it so easy to not want to hear what others have to say to you?
What value is there in being able to hear what you don’t want to hear?
Phil asked what we charge others to tell us the truth?
· What does that mean?
· What are some ways we can shut others down or out?
What could you change that would help you to be more receptive to God and others?
How could you benefit from receiving information about yourself from how others experience you or from their experiences?
How can you acquire more people in your life that will speak truth to you?
What do we miss when we create responses and attitudes that won’t invite others input- insight – perspective?
What would it sound like or look like for me to welcome others to speak in to my life? What would change?
Some questions Phil suggested we ask others:
· What’s it like to disagree with me?
· What’s it like to be married to me?
· What’s it like when I lead a meeting?
Add your own questions you might ask others.
How can we Ruthlessly Eliminate Pride?
· Practice Gratitude
· Joyfully engage in tasks that are “beneath” us
· Pursue humility
· Give in ways that don’t directly benefit ourselves.