Handling Regret

Review: 

Regrets come from making a decision and getting the wrong outcome.

The goal is to minimize regret as you make your decisions. We want to ask: What is the wise thing to do? 

  • In light of my past experiences, what is the wise thing to do?
  • In light of my current circumstances, what is the wise thing to do?
  • In light of my future hopes and dreams, what is the wise thing to do?

In light of my past experience, my current circumstances, and my future hopes and dreams, what is the wise thing for me to do? 

Solomon did not finish well. He had wisdom, but didn’t life it. Solomon pursues all the things that any one thinks will give life and happiness.

  • Money
  • Pleasure
  • Career/Work

Short-sighted questions we see in Solomon’s life and that we often ask:

  • What will give me what I want right now?
  • What can I get away with?
  • What’s the minimum requirement?
  • Who can I blame?

Blame solves everything and accomplishes nothing.

Solomon lives for this life and this life alone! (Ecc 9:1-2, 10)

This life is a speck of our life in eternity with God! This is key and core to being a follower of Jesus. There is more to this life than what we see. It is all connected and what we do now matters. (1 Peter 1:3-4)

Foolishness is not a series of bad choices; it is a choice to live as though God can be ignored. - John Ortberg

Key Thoughts:

1.     Live for today and you’ll compromise tomorrow.

2.     The farther your vision, the better your decision.

Key Question: What do you want to be remembered for?

Conclusion from Solomon: Ecclesiastes 12:13 — Now all has been heard; here is the conclusion of the matter: Fear God and keep his commandments, for this is the duty of all mankind.

Open It 

·      What do you see people giving themselves to in order to find life and happiness?

·      What do you think are some of the most common regrets for people as they get older?

Explore It

·      Read 1 Kings 9:6-7. What did God expect of Solomon?

·      Read 1 Kings 11:14, 23. What does God do in response to Solomon’s disobedience?

·      Read Ecclesiastes 1:2. Solomon pursed money, pleasure, and work in order to find life and happiness. What was Solomon’s final conclussion?

·      Read Ecclesiastes 12:13. What is Solomon’s final conclusion about life?

Get It

·      When have you experienced regret from a decision you made?

·      Would it have helped to ask the question: In light of my past experience, my current circumstances, and my future hopes and dreams, what is the wise thing for me to do? Why or why not?

·      Solomon lived for this life and this life alone. Phil shared four questions that Solomoned seemed to ask. Are you tempted to ask any of these questions? If so, in what situations or circumstances are you tempted to ask them?

  • What will give me what I want right now?
  • What can I get away with?
  • What’s the minimum requirement?
  • Who can I blame?

·      Phil said that, the farther your vision, the better your decision. How might this help you make better decisions? How might you increase your vision for the future?

Apply It

·      What is a problem, decision, or issue that you are facing right now? How would asking, In light of my past experience, my current circumstances, and my future hopes and dreams, what is the wise thing for me to do? help you find wisdom?

·      What do you want to be remembered for? What do you want you legacy to be or what difference do you want to make?

Jason McBride

Southeast Christian Church, 9650 Jordan Road, Parker, CO, 80134, United States